Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate motherhood and the bond between a parent and child. However, for mums that have lost a child, it can be a painful reminder of their grief.

If you have a friend or family member who has lost a child, you may be wondering how best to support her on such a difficult day. Here are thoughtful and sensitive ways to show your care and compassion.

Mother’s Day can be incredibly tough for grieving mums. While the world celebrates, she might feel waves of sorrow, longing or guilt. It’s a painful reminder of the moments she’ll never get to share.

The best thing you can do is let her know it’s okay to feel whatever she’s feeling. Grief isn’t neat or predictable, and just knowing someone understands can mean a lot.

Every mum’s experience is different, so approach her with love, empathy and a willingness to simply be there.

Listen Without Judgement

Sometimes, the best way to support someone is simply by being there to listen. Let her express her feelings without trying to fix or minimise them. Phrases like “I’m here for you” or “It’s okay to feel this way” can go a long way in making her feel supported.

Simple Gestures of Care

A small act of kindness can make a significant impact. Whether it’s delivering her favourite meal, sending a thoughtful card or just spending time with her, these gestures show that you care and are thinking of her.

Acknowledge Her Loss

One of the most meaningful things you can do is acknowledge her loss and her motherhood. You might say, “I know today is especially hard for you. I’m thinking of (child’s name) and how much they are loved and missed.” Hearing her child’s name can be a comforting reminder that they are remembered.

Avoid Cliché Phrases

While well-intentioned, phrases like “Everything happens for a reason” or “They’re in a better place now” can feel dismissive. Instead, focus on empathy and support, avoiding anything that might inadvertently minimise her pain.

Offering reassurance that her emotions are valid, rather than trying to cheer her up, can create a safe space for her to share her feelings. Let her lead the conversation and be present without the need to find solutions.

Send A Message Of Support

A heartfelt message can mean the world. A simple text or card that says, “Thinking of you today and sending love” can remind her she’s not alone.

Gift Ideas That Show Thoughtfulness 

Consider gifts that honour her child, like a piece of memorial jewellery, a personalised candle or a photo book. These items show that you’ve put thought into acknowledging her loss.

Offering Practical Help

Sometimes, practical support is just as valuable as emotional support. Offering to run errands, prepare meals or help with household tasks can alleviate some of her burden and let her focus on her own wellbeing.

Offering to accompany her to a meaningful place, like her child’s memorial or a quiet spot where she feels connected to her memories, can also provide comfort and solidarity.

Respect Her Boundaries

It’s important to remember that everyone grieves differently. Some bereaved mums might want to talk while others might prefer solitude. Respect her wishes and let her set the tone for how she wants to spend the day. Don’t take it personally if she declines offers of help or interaction.

Create A Memory Ritual

Encourage or help her create a ritual to honour her child’s memory. This could be lighting a candle, writing a letter to her child or visiting a special place that reminds her of them.

Participate In A Charity Or Cause

Many bereaved mums find comfort in contributing to a cause in their child’s name. Joining her in a charity walk, making a donation or supporting an event can be a meaningful way to spend the day.

Plant A Tree Or Create A Memory Box 

These symbolic gestures can create a lasting tribute. Planting a tree offers a living reminder of her child’s impact, while a memory box filled with keepsakes can serve as a cherished touchpoint.

While your support is invaluable, there may be times when professional help is needed. The Laura Centre provides a safe space for bereaved parents to navigate their grief. With experienced counsellors and tailored resources, we’re here to help her through every step of her journey.

Mother’s Day can be a challenging time for bereaved mums, but with thoughtfulness, empathy and respect for her unique experience, you can provide meaningful support. Remember, the smallest gestures often have the biggest impact when offered with genuine care and understanding.

If you need help and supporting following the loss of a child, parent or sibling, remember you can turn to The Laura Centre.